Friday, March 28, 2008

my buddy


my buddy
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Hero April 15, 2000 - March 28, 2008

After almost 8 years, my buddy Hero passed away. I went down to the basement as I do every day to take him outside for the day to find him barely hanging on after having been suffering for obviously several hours. I found a wonderful animal hospital in Alton (Pope Animal Hospital) who could see him right away and sadly, the only option we were left with was euthanasia. Sometime during the night, he had suffered a major neurological event and was suffering a great deal. I stayed with him until the very end. Hero was a great friend to me when I was a single guy and adapted well to the addition of a wife and later two children. He was always "up" (sometimes too much;-). But, he enjoyed every day of his life. Just yesterday, he was running and jumping around and barking... Oh, how we will miss that bark.
He was a great dog and we will miss him very much! Joey has already said several times that she loved Hero and misses him... Every night, as I put Joey to bed, she wants me to tell her a "Hero Story" These are stories that I make up as I tell them about a little girl named Joey and her best friend named Hero who go on adventures around the neighborhood rescuing other animals and children in trouble. Tonight, just like all other nights, Joey asked me for a Hero story. So, with tears in my eyes I told her a story about Joey and Hero going on an adventure to save someone's day (a little lost bunny rabbit this time)... She drifted off to sleep with Hero on her mind and in her heart, a place where Hero will remain for all of us as time goes by. Rest in peace my friend!

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Justice?

Time for another update on the fiasco with my family of origin and the settling (or not) of my mother's estate. My mom has been gone for nearly two years and only now are we beginning to see some movement on the settling of her estate. Greed has run rampant in my family of origin and the fractures are clear and evident and will most assuredly be permanent. That is the most painful part of this whole ordeal, as I have stated on more than one ocassion. I have had my character assaulted, my childhood possessions held hostage, and have been prohibited from being involved in the cathartic process of even looking at anything that belonged to my mom. There are those who are trying to play nice to my face, but then run to others and join them in their character attacks on me. As a result, I am having a hard time trusting anyone. The very people who should have been expected to pull together to support one another have let their desires for control and "ownership" of things get in the way of what a family should do by definition.

The court today made some nominal progress towards getting things moving again, but I am not terribly optimistic that much will be accomplished. There are some deadlines in place on all of us, but I am not terribly hopeful that they will be honored by all concerned. Up until these past two years, I had believed in the judicial system. At this point, my faith in that system has crumbled. If a person is willing to attack others vigorously enough and has no internal barometer of that which is truly right and wrong, then those are the ones who will "win"... at least in the present. (My personal feeling is that given the current situation and the "best case" outcome is that everyone involved in this one will lose.)

The one thing I do still believe in is a God who is loving and ever faithful towards those who serve him and are intent on a faithful interpretation of his word and his call to us. I also believe that God is the only true source of comfort. People change in response to their own desires. God alone remains constant in his unchanging love for his children. How blessed I am to have a heavenly father who will remain faithful and true. I wish that relity for everyone and perhaps someday it will come to pass. Is justice at the hands of a court system run by and participated in by human beings even capable of understanding true justice? Much less administrating it? I am having my doubts. Is God alone always just in his treatment of people? Of that I have no doubt and in that truth I rest my destiny.